In the moments where you’ve dealt with something painful or upsetting, did you ever have a moment where it all just clicked in your head? Like, you spent so much time worrying or feeling confused or just wasn’t able to make sense of a situation…And then suddenly, after all the rumination, anxiety, and talks with the people you trust (that didn’t fully help at the time), the lightbulb just went off? Suddenly, you figured out not how to heal, but that you’ve already healed.
There are moments in life that put a weight on top of you that you just can’t bear to hold. But then you realize, “I did hold that weight, and I held it with strength the entire time — and I didn’t let it crush me. Instead, I kept carrying until I had even more strength to lift myself up, let go of it, and throw it as far away from me as I could.”
In other words, all the time you spent holding onto the pain, trying to figure out how to heal — it was those moments where the healing took place.
I know you’ve dealt with these moments. We all have.
Don’t try to run away from what you’re going through. Sit with it. Hold onto it. Feel it. And then one day, something will click in your head. What clicks is what you’ve learned from carrying it for so long. What clicks is the sudden realization that everything you’ve gone through in this situation *was* the healing that needed to take place.